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Bridal Showers With That WOW Factor

October 1, 2015

Gloria Kreitzberg // Marketing Director

Let’s face it. Sometimes bridal showers can be a rather ho-hum event. If you’ve been given the honor of hosting a bridal shower for a friend or family member, the best thing you can do is make it a fun and memorable experience for everyone (including the bride). We’ve assembled a list of five unique bridal shower ideas to add some color, fun, and a little sparkle to your loved-one’s wedding shower. Be sure to visit Webster Golf Club’s “About to Be a Bride” Blog often for even more creative bridal shower ideas.

 

A COLOR-DRENCHED SHOWER

Does your bride have a passion for a particular color? If you know her well, you probably already know what it is. Why not create a totally saturated bridal shower with her favorite color, right down to the invitations, favors, centerpieces, and cake? If the bride’s favorite color is blue, make a blue blueberry punch, cupcakes with blue frosting, and blue streamers and balloons. If your shower is being held at a restaurant or venue, you may not have a choice of plates and napkins color, but you can always bring blue dessert napkins for the sweets table. If your bride’s favorite color is pink, you can call it a “Pretty in Pink” shower, and ask that guests wrap their presents in some sort of pink paper or ribbons. Have fun with it and let your imagination run wild with whatever color is chosen.

 

SOMETIMES THINGS REALLY ARE JUST BLACK AND WHITE

To make an elegant statement, an all white shower theme with a sparkle of silver will exude sophistication. An all black and white shower theme is the epitome of chic, and adding accents of different black and white patterns will make a bold statement to keep things interesting. If a totally white or black and white theme seems just a bit too stuffy and formal, adding one small pop of accent color will add some whimsy. A Tiffany blue added to a mostly-white shower will create a soft retro look, while a burst of bright red at a black and white themed shower will make a crisp bold statement.

 

QUIRKY & FUN RETRO SHOWERS

Everyone’s idea of ‘retro’ is different, depending on a person’s taste and generation. If your bride-to-be has a penchant for a particular bygone era, why not throw her a retro shower, (with music to match), that will keep people buzzing about it for months (or years) to come? A 50’s themed event is always a good time. Dress the bridal party in ankle socks and sneakers, poodle skirts and ponytails, and be-bop the hours away. The late 60’s was a time for wearing ponchos and fringe, hair wreaths made of flowers, bell-bottoms and peace signs. Throw in a few lava lamps on the head table, and lime green, orange and yellow flower patterns, and your bridal shower will be unique and definitely memorable. If there is another era that strikes your bride’s fancy, why not go for it?

 

NOT-SO-FADED MEMORIES SHOWER

Your bride, along with the bridal party, has most likely racked up years of memorable moments with the bride or groom. Why not share those memories as the theme for your bridal shower? Copies of photos in hand-decorated, homemade frames could be featured on walls, as the focal point of your centerpieces, and even on invitations. Copies of old vintage photos of family members that go back several generations can be displayed in antique frames and scattered around the room. Photos of the bride and groom at different times of their relationship could be enlarged to create a backdrop on the wall behind the head table. Along with the invitations, include a printed card entitled, “My Favorite Memory of _______”. Ask the guests to write a favorite memory of either the bride or groom on the card, and bring it to the shower. When the bride opens that person’s present, the guest could stand up and read the memory out loud. The bridal party could purchase a scrapbook to place all of the notes and photos featured at her shower.

 

BRIDE’S HOBBY OR PASSION SHOWER

Most brides have a favorite hobby, special talent, or a particular activity that brings her a lot of joy. To honor her uniqueness, surround her with it as the theme for her bridal shower. If she enjoys flowers and a good old-fashioned country garden, create a shower filled with her favorite fresh flowers in mason jars, small clay pots with hand-painted flowers or sayings that contain flower seeds as guest favors, earthy twine and jute bows, gingham print accents, and pink lemonade punch. If her passion is baking, why not have guests bring their favorite recipe on an index card to the shower and collect them for the bride. Having the bridal party pitch in and purchase a beautiful recipe box to hold them in would be a perfect idea. Have the bridal party bake cut out cookies and bring them unfrosted. Create a “cookie decorating station” with all sorts of colored frostings and candies, and have guests create their own cookie to enjoy. Inexpensive wooden spoons with pretty bows could be part of the guest favors, and the tables could be sprinkled with colored candy confetti. The sweets table could have a variety of baked goods, rather than the typical cake.

 

Webster Golf Club Weddings & Events will have more unique bridal shower ideas in upcoming posts. Be sure to visit our blog often for unique wedding planning ideas, bridal shower tips, and even makeup dos and don’ts for your wedding day. If you’re planning a wedding and would like to consider Webster Golf Club Weddings & Events to host your special day, click here to visit our website. Let us know that you found us through reading our blog.

 

10 Powerful Tips For De-Stressing Brides-To-Be

October 15, 2015

Gloria Kreitzberg // Marketing Director

You’ve researched the best wedding venues. You’ve watched every rerun of Four Weddings. You even found out whom that artsy photographer was at your cousin’s wedding—the one who took those amazing wedding photos. You’ve stressed out about which sister should be your maid of honor, had a few differences of opinions with your future mother-in-Law, and almost fainted when you looked at the price tag on your dream wedding dress. WAIT. This is supposed to be fun! Slow down and just breathe. Let’s figure out how to distress this whole wedding thing so that you can ENJOY your wedding journey—from the months (or years) leading up to the wedding, and that special day.

It’s ONE DAY.

Let’s look at this logically for a moment. You will be spending one, two, or more years planning for your wedding day. That’s between 365 to 830 days of preparation. If the goal is to make that ONE DAY perfect and all those other days are just a means to an end, think of how joy you could be missing out on if you are constantly stressing about each little detail. To have a more enjoyable life, you can focus on making those wedding planning activities FUN. In reality, those activities may be even more important than your wedding day, due to the fact there are so many of them. Life happens now, in the present moment. It’s full of everyday things—some mundane, some exciting. You might as well enjoy the journey and not stress about every little decision you will be making. That ONE DAY will go by so quickly as the photographer whisks you from photo op to photo op. You will be doing your obligatory visiting to each table at the wedding reception (whether you like the people or not), and moving from one wedding activity to another. The time will speed by faster than you think. Remember that the wedding planning journey is just as important than that ONE DAY.

 

Helpful Strategies

1. Check Your Mindset

Before doing any type of wedding planning activity, say to yourself “how can I make this a fun time”, rather than thinking of it as a chore or a stressful decision making trip. Be playful about each task. Don’t waste your energy wondering if the pink flowers in the bouquets match exactly with the bridesmaids dresses. Nothing that day will be absolutely perfect without a little flaw or slight mishap. That’s just life. It will still be wonderful.

 

2. Pamper

If you feel yourself clenching your jaw and over-taxing yourself with the extra wedding planning activities, take the time to schedule “me” times on your calendar. Make them at regular intervals and mark them on your calendar. Spread them out over the course of the months leading up to your wedding day and don’t let anyone take that time away from you. Make those dates with yourself just as important as keeping a doctor’s visit. Get a pedicure, manicure, facial, or massage. Make them once a week or once a month, depending on your finances. If you are on a tight budget, remember that scheduling weekly bubble baths are virtually free. Just make sure there are no cell phones in the room—and ask for total peace and non-disturbance from those in your home. This is your time. Think of pampering activities as a way to keep well balanced, rather than frivolous indulgences.

 

3. Practice Meditation

If you are not familiar with the practice of meditation, don’t get 'weirded out’ by it. Meditation is just an activity that elicits a physiological relaxation response. It’s called a practice, since it may take a while to get used to quieting your mind, and it should be done regularly to achieve maximum relaxation benefits. Learning to tame the wild monkeys (thoughts) in your head from taking over during meditation is just part of a normal mediation practice. ANYONE can meditate and anyone can learn to quiet his or her minds. There are many meditation and progressive relaxation CDs, and free audio downloads on the Internet that you can choose from. The easiest method (and it’s free) is to focus on your breath for 3-5 minutes, several times a day, wherever you are. Feel the air movement going in and out, notice your belly expanding and deflating with each breathe cycle, and pay attention to the natural rhythm of your breath. Before you know it, you will find yourself more relaxed and clear headed. You may also want to do this every night while you're lying in bed. It will help slow your heart rate and relax your muscles. Try a using a mantra (a repeated word, sound or phrase). Breathe in and say, “I am calm”. Breathe out, “I am peaceful”. Any phrase that brings you calm feelings will work.

 

4. It’s a Walk in the Park

Did you ever hear that old expression? Well maybe, a walk in the park is exactly what you need to calm those pre-wedding jitters. Being in nature and taking relaxing walks outdoors or spending time by a body of water can lower your heart rate and help you to feel relaxed. Clear your mind of thoughts. Look around you at the beauty and pay attention. Notice the smell of the trees and wildflowers. See how many different colors greens there are in the trees, plants and grass. Listen intently to the ebb and flow of the waves against the shore or the sounds of small creatures. Hear the rustling of the wind in the trees—these are nature’s symphonies. Lift your face to the sky and notice the cloud formations and how beautiful they are. Walk barefoot if you can and feel the moist cool grass under your feet, or the sun on your shoulders. Focus on all of the beauty around you and really “see” what wonders are there right in front of you. Go alone, if it’s safe to do so. If a thought or worry comes up, let it float away then focus on the way a leaf feels or the velvety feel of moss on the ground. Be present. It will transform you.

 

5. Delegate

It’s okay to ask for help. A wedding is a huge undertaking if you are planning the traditional hoopla. Ask those who love you—whether it’s family, friends, or your partner—to do small things. Have them make place cards, address envelopes, make bows, assemble favors, or run errands if you are in a time crunch. As super human as you are, you need to not overdo it. That would make you cranky, tired, or even sick. None of those things are fun.

 

6. Essential Oils to the Rescue

Good quality essential oils are know to calm nerves and relax you, when inhaled, placed on various areas of your body, or used in a diffuser. Try researching the various essential oils and their benefits. The most well-known and common de-stressing oil is Lavender. Other calming essential oils include Jasmine, Frankincense, Sandalwood, and Rose (and there are many more). Carry a vial or two in your purse and breathe in the aroma whenever you are feeling particularly stressed. Use it as your time to practice your breathing mediation for a few minutes. Have fun trying different oils and see what type of calming effect they have on you.

 

7. Stay Connected with Your Partner

When you are immersed in a flurry of wedding planning activities, it’s easy to forget about the person you are marrying. Make a real effort to have some quiet, quality, romantic, alone time with your partner on a regular basis. Make a pact that you will not spend more than 5 minutes talking about wedding planning decisions. The remainder of the time be sure to have some laughs. Play, get silly, or just relax having a funny flick night—complete with popcorn. Maybe your style is romance, in which case, we will leave that up to your imagination.

 

8. It’s Endorphin Time

It’s a proven fact that aerobic exercise produces uplifting and mood-stabilizing endorphins. Maybe a brisk walk (preferably in nature), or 30 minutes on the treadmill at the gym is in order. You may be tired and it may feel hard getting started, but once you do, you will feel more energy and feelings of well being in the long run. Ride a bike by the canal, take a jog by a body of water, do vigorous yard work, or perform any activity that gets your heart rate up and your blood flowing. As always, check with your physician before starting any exercise routine to make sure you are healthy enough to do so.

 

9. Eat Tryptophan-tastic Foods

There are foods you can add to your diet that can help your brain produce chemicals that will calm you. Some of these include turkey (and poultry), seafood, many types of fish, game meats, spinach, soy products, egg whites, bananas, sesame products, nuts, milk and cheese products, and many more. Do some research on foods with high tryptophan levels, select your favorites, and make an effort to eat more of them (especially in the evening to relax you before bedtime).

 

10. Stay Organized

If you are a do-it-yourself wedding planner, the you will need to stay organized and make lists to help you breathe easy and stay as calm as possible. Write out monthly to-do lists (there are many lists on the Internet to help you). When the month ends, see what is left on your list that was not completed, add any new tasks, and reprioritize those activities for the coming month. If your budget allows for a professional wedding planner, just do it. They will work with you, show you options, make the calls to the various wedding vendors, and present you with a plan you can live with. Luckily, some wedding venues have event coordinators and wedding day planners on hand to make sure the day flows smoothly (so you won’t have to worry about those things). Take advantage of those wedding venues that have free wedding planning services whenever possible.

 

Closing Thoughts...

Remember that no one is perfect (which includes partners, in-laws-to-be, bridesmaids and groomsmen, vendors and guests), and no ‘thing’ is perfect. You won’t be perfect either—you may have jitters, be a little cranky, get lipstick on your dress, or get caught up in trying to control everyone and everything. Let go of the idea of perfection. That’s not real life. There may be things that won’t be exactly the way you planned, but roll with it. Accept what is (if you cannot change it), because that’s what is. You don’t have to let it ruin your day. Your day will be personal, beautiful, and incredible in spite of a few hiccups. Breathe, have fun, and enjoy being a bride.